Hi 2 Love my Lips ladies...

I really hope you choose my story to be published on your blog as I need help, and fast. My friend told me that my housemate kissed the guy I have clearly fancied for ages last week on a night out. I am pretty upset because my housemate is meant to be a close friend and hasn't even had the guts to tell me. To be honest, I am very surprised by it all as she is usually very loyal and has a strong opinion of what is right and wrong.

I know that the friend who told me has always been jealous of our bond but Im not sure she would stoop as low as to lie about something like this. Should I confront my housemate? I'm finding it hard to be in her company as I feel she is being nothing but sneaky yet I can't help but think that there has been a form of misunderstanding.

She is the kind of person who would own up to any wrong-doing on her behalf immediately.
Could my friend be stirring? If so, I would feel really bad about confronting my housmate if nothing really happened as she has always been a fab friend. Help required girls!


Lisa, 21, Ormskirk

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Our verdict:

I think this is one of those situations that you need ot act on now or never!

It could very well be that this friend really is that jealous that she wants to try and disrrupt you and your housemates strong bond! This would be the worst outcome in one way but not in another. Of course you don't want to believe that your good friend would do this but you need ot stop wondering and get to the bottom of it.There could be a possibly good explanation, or maybe not, but either way, give both friends a chance before making rash assumptions.

Go for it girl!

Dear 2LML,

My othyer half loves to gamble and go down the pub rather than spend time with his family. He will often lie about where he is going and tell me he's working when in fact he's been seen in the bookies. He know it a problem and it's causing problems between us, I've tried to talk to him about it but it often ends in rows. I don't want the children growing up, thinking this is the norm!! Really don't know what to do about it.....

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OUR VERDICT:

Ok, well at least he's gambling and not having an affair! Not that we're condoning this behaviour. You need to try and make him understand this is not only a problem for him but it’s affecting the family. The children deserve a better example of a father and he needs to step up and start putting the family first!

Tell him the problem needs to be addressed and suggest seeing someone about his gambling and drinking. There are really supportive groups such as Gamblers and Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) It won’t be easy for either of you. If you love him and truly believe you can work through it, you’ll both have to be strong for each other and the children. Do what it takes to make things good again, unfortunately you may have to be the instigator of all this, do what a wife does best and keep nagging until he cracks! If he’s not willing to help himself and things get worse, I suggest you need to make an executive decision as to whether you want to stick around. x