Hey girlies!

Can you help me out with some advice or comments on this one. I'm a lesbian and seeing a girl for 5 months now. She is actually amazing and I think I could stay with her but she seems a little off-put by the whole 'let's make this a bit more public' thing. I am a bit upset cos she has come out years ago and I have only told my family and friends in the last 5 months- mainly due to being with her.
She told me she doesn't want a label and that she like's how its going at the minute.
To be honest, I'm just a bit fed up of the sneaking around and not being able to touch her in public. It's not like I want her to be my girlfriend all over facebook, but it makes me feel a bit unloved. What should I do? I really like her and don't want to end but do you think I should give her a bit of an ultimatum?

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Our verdict:

Well us girls have a pretty straight opinion on this girlie! Sexuality has always been something hard for most people to talk about as its still quite new to others. Being a lesbian shouldn't effect your relationship as much as it is if your girl has come out a long time ago. What is she so afraid of anyway? I reckon you have one last conversation with her explaining you are upset by the way she seems to want to hide you away. If her reaction isn't apologetic then we say get rid babe! If you came out to your friends and family for her benefit then she can do the same. After all, as you said, Its not as though you are asking her to even be your girlfriend. Best of luck honey!

Help needed!!

Hi girlies, of course this story is going to be boy related because they seem to bring me sooo much trouble! The lad i'm seeing seemed to be really sweet until I heard what he was telling his mates about me behind my back. We went to a houseparty last sunday and I was chatting to Tom's mate who was very drunk. He told me that he was happy Tom and I were still together and said he was very jealous of all the sex we seemed to be having. I immediately stopped him in his tracks and explained that I was a virgin and nothing had happened yet. He went on to say that Tom boasts a lot about him and I doing intimate things. I was so shocked and upset as we havn't gone that far as I'm nervous. Tom's mate even had a little giggle when I explained I was a virgin which wasn't exactly comforting or nice! I really like Tom and he treats me very good usually but this has really got to me. He must be embarrassed that we are not sexually active yet but he has told me he doesn't mind waiting for me! Confused is an understatement! HELP!!!

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Our verdict:

DITCH, DITCH, DITCH! This guy sounds like he needs a wake up call! The situation must have been extremely awkward for you and you shouldn't have had to go through that chat with his mate. It's nobody else's business what you and your boyfriend do or don't so he should learn to keep his mouth shut. We think it was a very pretentious thing to do. We could stick up for him a little and say that he may have felt left out amongst his friends banter but then again, why would he lie? It's all a little pathetic so I would get away from him to be honest girl! He should be happy to wait and look upon your virginity as something sacred.
Get rid lassy!

Hi 2 Love my Lips ladies...

I really hope you choose my story to be published on your blog as I need help, and fast. My friend told me that my housemate kissed the guy I have clearly fancied for ages last week on a night out. I am pretty upset because my housemate is meant to be a close friend and hasn't even had the guts to tell me. To be honest, I am very surprised by it all as she is usually very loyal and has a strong opinion of what is right and wrong.

I know that the friend who told me has always been jealous of our bond but Im not sure she would stoop as low as to lie about something like this. Should I confront my housemate? I'm finding it hard to be in her company as I feel she is being nothing but sneaky yet I can't help but think that there has been a form of misunderstanding.

She is the kind of person who would own up to any wrong-doing on her behalf immediately.
Could my friend be stirring? If so, I would feel really bad about confronting my housmate if nothing really happened as she has always been a fab friend. Help required girls!


Lisa, 21, Ormskirk

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Our verdict:

I think this is one of those situations that you need ot act on now or never!

It could very well be that this friend really is that jealous that she wants to try and disrrupt you and your housemates strong bond! This would be the worst outcome in one way but not in another. Of course you don't want to believe that your good friend would do this but you need ot stop wondering and get to the bottom of it.There could be a possibly good explanation, or maybe not, but either way, give both friends a chance before making rash assumptions.

Go for it girl!

Dear 2Love my Lips ladies,

I am pretty nervous about this problem I am about to present to you.I am really into this guy I met during the summer and am still seeing him. We really click and I have a great laugh with him, including great sexual chemistry.


The other day I went over to his but he was in the shower, so I propped myself on his bed and waited.Two minutes later, his blackberry began to vibrate and I saw his mum was trying to call so I answered and explained he was in the shower. I hung up and saw that his video files were open. I was a little bit taken back when i saw that the images on the non-playing video's seemed to be my boyfriend dressed up as a female.
I didn't panic for a moment as i guessed it was some joke between his friends and him.

It wasn't until I watched these videos that I realised my boyfriend was indeed, a blooming cross-dresser!
He introduced himself in each video as 'Becky' and went on to talk in an attempted female voice for the camera. The feminine clothes were stuffed to make boobs and he wore a full face of make-up and a long wig.


I am so freaked out and upset if i'm honest! He is so manly normally and I would never have guessed something like this! I want to confront the situation but how and what should i say?

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Our verdict:

Okay this is a very, very tricky story! I am glad you didn't automatically ditch your guy on first glance of these video's as there may actually be an explanation to them!

You stated how he is normally very masculine and shows no signs of this kind of behaviour so why not just confront him?  I know, I know, you're thinking how can i possibly bring this topic up, but believe me, once you get it out of the way then you will feel a whole lot better. If it turns out he actually is a cross-dresser then you need to be honest with him about what he is doing and how it effects you!

He may tell you he cannot stop and this is a part of him and always will be, but this is the worst outcome possible. It may even be that this is a joke of some sort or even a project you don't know about so make sure to ask! It also may be a silly phase he is going through but it is fair enough if that freaks you out and you break up over it eventually. I say definitely talk to him first though, especially if you like this guy a lot!